I’ve come to dislike very much the term power exchange in a M/s relationship, at least for ours, and this is why.
An exchange of power can mean that both parties need power to actually exchange, it’s a two-way street. When meeting at a MaST last month it was argued that a total power exchange can define an M/s relationship.
Now, before I get started I want to emphasize that my own experience, which I am speaking of, is coming from a 24/7 M/s and O/p relationship.
I’m not exactly sure why, when speaking with others that they try to get me to admit that I have power in my own dynamic. I am a slave. I am property. My decisions that are made are a direct reflection of my Master. I do not like when people think that I have “Power” just because I have responsibilities. Being a slave/property, I do my best to find ways to give more power over to my Master/Owner. I run towards him controlling me, not away. The thought of me having “power” over him is the total opposite of what the whole relationship is based on. I am not a modern feminist. Lol… Far from it. I’ve never wanted to be head of household and gravitated towards a confident man. I do not believe that I am equal to my Master. I have a bracelet that says WWMD. What Would Master Do? This is a reminder that my actions are a direct reflection of my submission. I am here to serve him. I am here for His needs and in fulfilling his wants and desires I found happiness .
So, when speaking about my feelings about how our relationship works I get push back, even from other “open minded lifestylers”. Lol.. I find this pretty amusing . Women especially want to prove a point by having me admit that I have the power in our M/s dynamic. Why? I’m not quite sure. What if I don’t want power? What if that’s the goal? Why is that so hard to understand?
Power can only be exchanged if there is power to give. For our dynamic, Master has the control, the power and the decision making. I am given permission to do certain things but these are not inalienable rights. They can be withheld. This is the dynamic I am in. I take this very seriously.
I’ve come across some women who are scared for me. They would rather me be in control of my own destiny, why? I’m OK. Actually, I’m great. They can be scared but don’t try to define me according to their own fears. I gave up my rights, my control and my will the day I was collared/married. This is our way of life. It works for us..