In this world we have each other. We have a place to explore our hidden desires, Our hidden wants and needs.
What happens when the anonymity is breached. What happens to our world. The population does not quite understand. Just like the gay community was exiled until acceptance was attained, so it is in our world, Viles world.
Neither vile nor myself have made our life a secret. There are a couple at work who know and my mom. Then we have friends in the community. I wear my collar 24/7. Most people don’t have a clue of the meaning.
So what am I trying to convey? There is a private aspect. The sharing of our inner workings in our relationship in this world of vile, details are given. Details that will hopefully enlighten and help others in the community and in the vanilla setting.
I only hope that my privacy is respected if I get outed. I have not shared Viles blog or my own. There is quite a difference between vanilla knowing that i live an alternative lifestyle and reading about the details. There had beena recent link which I will try and close. There are those on my Masters blog that have followed my previous vanilla blog and there was an overlap of my vanilla blog and Viles blog. Damn. Why did I use my real full name in the vanilla setting? At the time, I had nothing to hide in my vanilla blog. There were no details of my life only poetry and life reflections. But now, there is a huge link if someone were too do a little research and my heart sinks.
My only fear is that my coworkers will find Viles blog and make the connection of exactly who Arianna is. I realize there are those who are privy to this information and I thank you for your discretion.
So what is your fear? How would your life change? I would most likely need to change jobs if I didn’t get fired. Which most likely i would.
So I hope that those who have may have made the connection would respect my life and the way I’ve chosen to live it.
Thank you
~Arianna
arianna's Blog 
Hoping with all my heart that you stay anonymous. Don’t think you should be fired for your private life though. Although I can also see how it would be difficult to stay if you would be judged. Fingers crossed.
Thank you. Master and I closed some loop holes and I made my vanilla blog private. That should take care of the majority of it. You know how companies are these days. HR monitors even Facebook. Companies even request access to social media for a requirement of hiring. Private life is no longer terribly private. A person is held to be a representative of their company both in Amd of of work nowadays.
Thank you.
Oh Arianna…. Really? You’d be fired? I think it would be illegal. I worry more about losing my job because I have a side business selling sex toys and my students invariably find out every year. You are in a stable loving relationship, beyond that it is no ones business and it doesn’t affect your performance at work. Stand strong. You and Vile are amazing.
I think we nipped it in the bud. Thank you. Remember that companies nowadays monitor everything. There has been instances of companies letting people go due to slandering of their name and bitching through social media. In this day and age the Internet can be a friend or for. I privatized my vanilla blog so we should be good. Thank you
I would love to think that those who choose to live this lifestyle are discreet and understand the ramifications that being outed would cause. But I know that most people are not always logical and/or “human” enough to care about this fact. We live in a society of gossip columns and tabloids. It’s unfortunate. As is the fact that no matter your work ethic or qualifications it is possible, even today, to lose a job over lifestyle choices. Stand strong. I truly hope that this blows over for you & that those who have knowledge realize the harm they could cause by acting as if they are back in middle school. We are grown ups now, the rules are not the same and karma is not a girl you want to mess with!!
I agree. There wasn’t an actual link but there was a vanilla person who would love to bring me down. Because you could Google my prior name and get to my vanilla v blog and there were a couple links to my vanilla blog through my Masters blog. We fixed it andTook those links out. Now that my vanilla blog is private there really isn’t as much proof. This spurred because I received a like on my vanilla blog and Maater received a comment on his from tge same person yesterday. That particular person, if your reading this, did nothing
wrong. It just brought to the forefront the problems that could arise if Master And I didn’t sever the link.
Thank you
Very good question….very good indeed. I might have a go at posting an answer…. thank you for this post….
http://writingthebody.wordpress.com/2014/05/25/ariannas-challenge-and-if-we-are-outed/
I think people have a certain amount of responsibility to keep their personal and professional lives separate. But we, as people, also have a duty to respect that separation in others. You shouldn’t judge someone’s professional life on their personal choice, especially if one does not dictate the other and especially if there are no illegal implications and your not hurting anyone. Honestly, Master and I do not broadcast our lifestyle choice but if anyone were to ask I wouldn’t lie about it either. I think many more people are open minded today then years ago (after all 50 Shades of Grey -which I still have not read yet -was on the best seller list for a while and fondly nicknamed ‘mommy porn’), so it may not be as bad as people fear. However you always have the troublemakers, zealots, misinformed and such which would invariably cause trouble. I would probably fear losing my job if my lifestyle was nationally televised but I don’t plan on going on a talk show anytime soon so I think I’m safe (lol). I’m sure your situation will blow over. Take what corrective action you can to maintain your anonymity but definitely don’t stress too much. Your followers and friends will respect your privacy as many of us are in the same boat. And if it ever does come to light at work just remember, it’s only a job, your connection with Vile is far more important and brings you much more peace than any job ever would. My integrity (not lying) and my relationship to Master would be my ultimate priority, because with those I can get through anything life throws my way….. even stupid people. 🙂
Or vindictive people. Thank you. Yes. It’s only a job when it boils down to it. And I totally agree that my relationship would have priority. I love our Bubble and something of that nature would not destroy us by far. I really have no proof that this particular vanilla person is aware but I was threatened by them that they would make my life difficult. I’m not scared but staying safe and smart. I don’t want to give them easy ammo.
Thank you for your comment.
Sounds like a good plan. I’ll cross my fingers (and toes?)for you, good luck!
Thanks. And thank you for commenting.
I can understand. I don’t know what would happen it certain family members found out how I am. It’s terrible that it has to be kept under wraps. I never want to know what would happen at work. I live in a more conservation community but as I explore, I am finding more where I live. Hoping that one day we can all live the life we want.
I think that for all of us that share this lifestyle being outed in our jobs and vanilla life is one of our greatest fears. I certainly hope that this turns out to be a groundless fear for you and nothing comes of it.
Thank you. I’m sure it will. If for some unforeseen reason it doesn’t, I have my Master and he will guide me through it. He’s good at that. But yes. I have no proof but changed a few things as a precaution.
Just offering you an award….no need to do anything you don’t want to….but hope you will accept!
http://writingthebody.wordpress.com/2014/05/25/blogging-award/