Recently, actually, this morning, my Master wrote on His blog, THE KINKY WORLD OF VILE, about how important a safe call is when meeting someone for the first time. I remember my first face-to-face meeting with Him . I actually texted my mom the address of His home and texted once I arrived and again when leaving, and again when I got home. My mom knew who I was going to meet because I told her about my lifestyle. She was extremely nervous for me but that didn’t stop me. Ultimately, I’m stubborn when it comes to advice from my mom. She is not aware of this blog but knows that Master has one but is not interested in the details which is more than fine with me. Lol. His blog is very personal and there are just things that your family, coworkers, and some friends do not need to know.
Anyway.. Back to track. The thing is, I think it’s really easy for us to trust. Dare I say women in general, or maybe just subs and slaves. But regardless, It was hard not to fall at HIs feet and ask for Him to accept me. He was the one who put on some brakes and wanted me to experience His life among the BDSM community and His reputation. Master Vile wanted to prove Himself to me and refused for me to take His word for it. It was important that my trust be earned even if I was ready to just give it. He proved Himself beyond a doubt that He was real and is respected among friends and involved in the local community. So, essentially, I lucked out.
I was lucky that He was pushing me to put the brakes on my giving of my trust to Him. He wanted me to learn that there are many people who are not safe. And also, to not immediately give my submission to just anyone. Trust is earned or given over a period of time. It’s not just immediately given to a stranger. And even though we had talked and emailed, He was still essentially a stranger who could have easily pulled the wool over my eyes. I was lucky. I could have gotten hurt both emotionally and physically by someone who would take advantage of my immediate submission. I did in the past and still didn’t learn the hard lesson. I hope I never have to learn the hard way but now I know that there are questions to ask and people to meet in the lifestyle who can vouch for the validity of the dominant. This is important and as I become more involved with the local community I see the many differences in the Dominants. Many who I respect but would never want to submit to because our tastes are just too far apart. I feel extraordinary luck that Master Vile and I have so much in common both in and out of the bedroom.
I hope that each of you can ask the hard questions and hold back your submission until those questions have answers that can be vouched for. I think that is very important. If not from the bdsm community than from their previous subs or family. Don’t let the smooth talker pull the wool over your eyes. Be safe..